Hello everyone. Today I am going to answer a question about a man who likes smelling sharpies. Just like someone who does drugs, Sharpie markers can be just as addicting too.
Hi Jake, I’m a 16 year old in high school. I’m a male and I’m very much a black sheep. I’m so different from my family, even my brothers tell me that I’m adopted.
And, I was wondering what kind of advice you can give to a person who gets high off of Sharpie markers. It’s become so bad that I keep a secret stash in my room and whenever I want to get high, I just take out the markers and start sniffing them like crazy. The smell is so good, but I know that sniffing Sharpie markers are really bad for your health, and I need some advice on how to get off from sniffing them. What do I do?
First of all, I want to thank you for coming to me about a personal issue like this. It takes guts to tell a complete stranger anything personal, even if it means sniffing Sharpie markers. So thank you for being so transparent with me about your problem.
The first piece of advice I would give to someone like you is to seek a therapist. A therapist will be able to help you get off of sniffing Sharpies, or at least push you into a better direction then where you’re going right now. That’s my first piece of advice.
My next piece of advice is finding a support group of people who are dealing with similar things you’re dealing with. No one should have to go through an addiction alone. But know that it’s going to take a great deal of strength for you. The only person that can take you off of smelling Sharpies is really yourself, but I want you to know that there are a lot of people that are going through the same thing, so you’re not alone.
As far as giving you advice as to what to do, here’s what I would do. If you’ve been following this blog, you’ll know that I’m very much into trying to attack a problem at its source. My plan of action is to always dig deep and find out the problem that is causing you to manifest sniffing Sharpies in your life.
Whenever you have an addiction, and I don’t care what it is. It could be drugs, alcohol, pills, etc.. Whenever you have an addiction what you’re really doing is running away from a problem. Let’s be real here, why else would we resort to drugs or alcohol? We do this because we want to numb the pain. We don’t want to feel bad about something we didn’t do, or did do.
And let’s be real here, who really wants to deal with any kind of pain, whether it be physical, emotional, etc…? Not me for one. So what starts happening? We start what is called self-medicating. We want so bad to rid ourselves of hurting that we’re willing to do whatever it takes to try to be happy again, even if it’s just for a moment, that’s better than dealing with feelings.
I want you to sit down and really think truly why you want to get high more often. What issue are you dealing with that you’re trying to avoid? If you read my previous blog (The one about facing your emotions), you’ll know that what resists persists. Since you keep trying to ignore the problem at hand, it’s going to come back to you in waves, and each wave will be worst than the previous one.
So the fastest you can stop from sniffing Sharpies, the faster you’ll rid yourself of this addiction. This takes time though. When I asked my grandma how she stopped smoking for 40 something years, she had the best advice to give to anyone with an addiction. Everyday she kept telling herself that today she wouldn’t smoke.
Just for today, she wouldn’t smoke. She would smoke tomorrow, but today she wasn’t going to smoke. And that really helped grandma quit because she noticed that it was dumb to keep smoking like she did. She finally was off of it for an entire year, and ever since that year, she has not smoked for the rest of her life.
Another thing worth mentioning is, and this advice is kind of a breakthrough regarding addictions, but I want you to think about what happens when you relapse. Now, the self-help field says that things like relapsing will happen. The main thing is to get your mind off of wanting to relapse and instead replace that activity with a different activity.
And once again, the self-help field is avoiding the problem. Ignore the relapse? Seriously who comes up with this advice? Like I said above, when you try to ignore something, you’re avoiding the problem. Instead here is what you should do:
When you experience a moment where you want to relapse, you need to figure out a different way of approaching the problem. There’s something you’re not doing differently to help rid yourself of your addiction. Try to approach the problem differently.
So, let’s say one thing you try is to sit with the emotion of wanting to be happy and free from addiction. Let’s say that, that doesn’t work. Instead, try the exercise illustrated in my article “How to Face Your Emotions – Instead of Ignoring Your Feelings, Face Your Feelings.” Try to attack the problem at its source.
Addiction is hard period. Addiction requires you to really dive deep and try to figure out the first time you started the addiction. It requires an extreme amount of patience, and perseverance, but by attacking the problem at its source, you’ll be surprised how much easier it’ll be to deal with it.
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